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Marry him : the case for settling for Mr. Good Enough / Lori Gottlieb.

By: Material type: TextTextPublication details: New York : Dutton, c2010.Description: viii, 322 p. ; 24 cmISBN:
  • 0525951512 (hardcover)
  • 9780525951513 (hardcover)
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Contents:
The husband store -- The dating trenches -- The romantic comedy that predicted my future -- How feminism fucked up my love life -- Speed dating disaster -- Older and wanting to be wiser -- $3,500 for love -- The what versus the why -- Mondays with Evan--session one : the percentages -- It's not him, it's you -- Don't be picky, be happy -- Mondays with Evan--session two : the wrong assumptions -- The men who got away -- Pulling another Sheldon -- Mondays with Evan--session three : the lowdown on alpha males -- What first dates really tell us -- Are women pickier than men? -- Mondays with Evan--session four : wants versus needs -- The business of love -- Love at twenty-seventh sight -- Mondays with Evan--session five : the chemistry-to-compatibility ratio -- Dump the list, not the guy -- The good enough marriage -- A visit with the rabbi -- Claire's story : getting over myself -- Alexandra's story : Mr. Right in front of me -- Hilary's story : finding what I needed -- My story : a dating public service announcement.
Summary: By looking at everything from culture to biology, in "Marry Him" Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate.
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Lori Gottlieb discusses Marry Him in a video on The Atlantic website.

You have a fulfilling job, a great group of friends, the perfect apartment, and no shortage of dates. So what if you haven't found The One just yet. Surely he'll come along, right?

But what if he doesn't? Or even worse, what if he already has, but you just didn't realize it?

Suddenly finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic : Maybe she and single women everywhere, needed to stop chasing the elusive Prince Charming and instead go for Mr. Good Enough.

Looking at her friends' happy marriages to good enough guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we really need in a partner. Her ideas created a firestorm of controversy from outlets like the Today show to The Washington Post , which wrote, "Given the perennial shortage of perfect men, Gottlieb's probably got a point," to Newsweek and NPR, which declared, "Lori Gottlieb didn't want to take her mother's advice to be less picky, but now that she's turned forty, she wonders if her mother is right." Women all over the world were talking. But while many people agreed that they should have more realistic expectations, what did that actually mean out in the real world, where Gottlieb and women like her were inexorably drawn to their "type"?

That's where Marry Him comes in.

By looking at everything from culture to biology, in Marry Him Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate. Here Gottlieb shares her own journey in the quest for romantic fulfillment, and in the process gets wise guidance and surprising insights from marital researchers, matchmakers, dating coaches, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, couples therapists, divorce lawyers, and clergy--as well as single and married men and women, ranging in age from their twenties to their sixties.

Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern dating landscape, and ultimately, a provocative wake-up call about getting real about Mr. Right.

The husband store -- The dating trenches -- The romantic comedy that predicted my future -- How feminism fucked up my love life -- Speed dating disaster -- Older and wanting to be wiser -- $3,500 for love -- The what versus the why -- Mondays with Evan--session one : the percentages -- It's not him, it's you -- Don't be picky, be happy -- Mondays with Evan--session two : the wrong assumptions -- The men who got away -- Pulling another Sheldon -- Mondays with Evan--session three : the lowdown on alpha males -- What first dates really tell us -- Are women pickier than men? -- Mondays with Evan--session four : wants versus needs -- The business of love -- Love at twenty-seventh sight -- Mondays with Evan--session five : the chemistry-to-compatibility ratio -- Dump the list, not the guy -- The good enough marriage -- A visit with the rabbi -- Claire's story : getting over myself -- Alexandra's story : Mr. Right in front of me -- Hilary's story : finding what I needed -- My story : a dating public service announcement.

By looking at everything from culture to biology, in "Marry Him" Gottlieb frankly explores the dilemma that so many women today seem to face--how to reconcile the strong desire for a husband and family with a list of must-haves so long and complicated that many great guys get rejected out of the gate.

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