TY  - BOOK
AU  - Lehr,Jennifer
TI  - Parentspeak: what's wrong with how we talk to our children--and what to say instead 
SN  - 9780761181514
PY  - 2016///]
CY  - New York
PB  - Workman Publishing
KW  - Success in children
KW  - Children
KW  - Conduct of life
KW  - Interpersonal communication in children
KW  - Child rearing
N1  - Includes bibliographical references (pages 266-270); "Good job!" -- "Who's my big boy?" -- "You're so cute!" -- "Give Grandma a kiss!" -- "Be careful!" -- "Can you say 'thank you'?" -- "Share!" -- "Say 'sorry'!" -- "Tickle, tickle, tickle!" -- "You're okay!" -- "Behave yourself!" -- "I said, 'right now'!" -- "Do you want a time-out?" -- "Do you want a spanking?"
N2  - "Imagine if every time you praise your child with "Good job!" you're actually doing more harm than good, offering meaningless approval instead of actually engaging with your child? Or that insisting "Can you say thank you?" is exactly the wrong way to go about teaching manners? Jennifer Lehr is a smart, funny, fearless writer who takes on "parentspeak" and, in the process, offers a conscious, compassionate approach to parenting"--
ER  -