TY - BOOK AU - Kaufmann,Kate TI - Do you have kids?: life when the answer is no SN - 9781631525810 PY - 2019/// CY - Berkeley, CA PB - She Writes Press KW - Childfree choice KW - Childlessness KW - Women KW - Conduct of life KW - Attitudes N1 - Includes bibliographical references (pages 245-268); Who we are -- Making a living -- Borrowed from the beginning -- Abiding friendship -- Family matters -- Where we live -- Use it or lose it -- Spirit moves -- Elder orphans -- What we leave behind -- Do you have kids? N2 - Do You Have Kids? Life When the Answer is No takes on topics from the shifting meaning of family to what we leave behind when we die. Weaving together wisdom from women ages twenty-four to ninety-one with both her own story and a growing body of research, Kate brings to light alternate routes to lives of meaning, connection, and joy. Today about one in five American women will never have children, whether by choice or by destiny. Yet few women talk much about what not having kids means to their lives and identities. Not that they don't want to; there just aren't obvious catalysts for such open conversations. In fact, social taboos preclude exploration of the topic--and since our family-centric culture doesn't know quite what to do with non-parents, there's potential for childless and childfree women to be sidelined, ignored, or drowned out. Yet there's widespread, pent-up demand for understanding and validating this perfectly normal way of being. In this straight-shooting, exhaustively researched book, women without kids talk candidly about the ways in which their lives differ from societal norms and expectations--the good, the bad, and the unexpected ER -