TY  - BOOK
AU  - Westmoquette,Mark
AU  - Skinner,Julian Daizan
TI  - Zen and the art of dealing with difficult people
SN  - 9781786785480
PY  - 2021///
CY  - London
PB  - Watkins
KW  - Interpersonal conflict
KW  - Mindfulness (Psychology)
KW  - Religious aspects
KW  - Buddhism
KW  - Zen Buddhism
KW  - Self-help publications
KW  - lcgft
N1  - Includes bibliographical references (pages 193-196); Troublesome people as our teachers. Mindfulness and attunement -- Dysregulation--why we lose it with difficult people -- Patterns and tendencies--coping strategies -- Softening with compassion -- Troublesome arenas. Fellow traveller Buddhas -- Workplace Buddhas -- Friend Buddhas -- Neighbour and housemate Buddhas -- Partner Buddhas -- Family Buddhas -- Teacher Buddhas -- Really troublesome Buddhas. Ogre Buddhas -- Self Buddhas -- Seeing troublesome people as Buddhas. Realizing Buddha-nature -- Finding your sanctuary
N2  - "This book is for anyone who wants to learn how to respond to difficult people with more clarity and wisdom. It will help you explore your reactions, break free from knee-jerk response patterns and find out how these people can become useful teachers in life--troublesome Buddhas. In this book Mark Westmoquette draws on personal experiences of profound tragedy. He stresses that the only way to grow is by facing our pain, acknowledging how we feel and committing to end the repeating pattern of suffering, By bringing awareness and kindness to these relationships, our initial stance of "I can't stand this person, they need to change: will naturally shift into something more inclusive. Zen is about finding your true nature and, once you've woken up to it, learning to live from that realization. There will always be people who get up your nose--and perhaps even your blood boil and steam come out of your ears. Mark teaches us how to listen to those feelings and begin relating to them in a different way."--
ER  -