TY  - BOOK
AU  - Reczek,Corinne E.
AU  - Bosley-Smith,Emma
TI  - Families we keep: LGBTQ people and their enduring bonds with parents 
SN  - 9781479813322
PY  - 2022///]
CY  - New York
PB  - New York University Press
KW  - Sexual minorities' families
KW  - Sexual minorities
KW  - Family relationships
KW  - Dysfunctional families
KW  - Parent and child
KW  - Parent and adult child
KW  - LGBTQ+
N1  - Includes bibliographical references (pages 185-199) and index; Glossary -- Introduction: The parent trap -- Part I: Why LGBTQ adults stay in the family : the power of compulsory kinship -- Compulsory kinship -- The rationale of love and closeness -- The rationale of growth -- The rationale of uniqueness -- Part II: How LGBTQ adults adhere to compulsory kinship -- The kin closet -- Gender and sexuality school -- Out of the closet, under the rug -- Becoming normal -- Out of the family
N2  - "There is no "'till death do us part" vow between parents and children. And yet, parent-child relationships are far more enduring than the marital relationships that made this phrase famous. The life-long parent-child tie is so ubiquitous and taken-for-granted that it doesn't need an oath. This unspoken pledge is our birthright; in times of good and bad, sickness and health, parents and their children are bound for life. But, not every parent-child tie is healthy and helpful. And what's remarkable is this imperative persists even when these relationships are unsatisfactory or even deeply damaging. Why do we stay in these parent-adult child relationships? And how do we stay bonded amidst rejection and pain? This book answers these questions. Drawing on interviews with 76 LGBTQ adults and 44 of their parents, the authors explain that conflictual, rejecting, and even abusive ties with parents endure because of what they call compulsory kinship: the overarching socio-cultural forces that tell us we have to stay in this bond, no matter what. That is, what we think of as the "natural" and inevitable connection between parents and adult children is actually created and sustained by sociocultural forces of compulsory kinship. With their empirical data the authors show why LGBTQ people justify their adherence to the specific compulsory kinship, using the rationales of love and closeness, parental growth, and the uniqueness of the parent-child tie. Further, they reveal how LGBTQ people stay in difficult relationships with parents through a new type of family work called "conflict work.""--
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