TY  - BOOK
AU  - Nagoski,Emily
TI  - Come as you are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life 
SN  - 9781982165314
PY  - 2021///
CY  - New York, NY
PB  - Simon & Schuster Paperbacks, an imprint of Simon & Schuster
KW  - Sex instruction for women
KW  - Sexual health
KW  - Women
KW  - Sexual behavior
KW  - Health and hygiene
KW  - Self-help publications
KW  - lcgft
N1  - Includes bibliographical references and index; The True Story of Sex --; The Organization of This Book --; A Couple of Caveats --; If You Feel Broken, or Know Someone Who Does --; pt. 1; The (Not-So-Basic) Basics --; 1; Anatomy: No Two Alike --; The Beginning --; The Clit, the Whole Clit, and Nothing but the Clit --; Meet Your Clitoris --; Lips, Both Great and Small --; Hymen Truths --; A Word on Words --; The Sticky Bits --; Intersex Parts --; Why It Matters --; Change How You See --; A Better Metaphor --; What It Is, Not What It Means --; 2; The Dual Control Model: Your Sexual Personality --; Turn On the Ons, Turn Off the Offs --; Your Sexual Temperament --; What "Medium" Means --; Different for Girls... Sometimes --; What Turns You On? --; Can You Change Your Brain? --; 3; Context: And the "One Ring" (to Rule Them All) in Your Emotional Brain --; Sensation in Context --; Sex, Rats, and Rock `n' Roll --; Liking, Wanting, and Learning --; You Can't Make Them --; "Is Something Wrong with Me?" (Answer: Nope) --; pt. 2; Sex In Context --; 4; Emotional Context: Sex in a Monkey Brain --; The Stress Response Cycle; Fight, Flight, and Freeze --; Stress and Sex --; Broken Culture [→] Broken Stress Response Cycles --; Complete the Cycle! --; When Sex Becomes the Lion --; Sex and the Survivor --; Origin of Love --; The Science of Falling in Love --; Attachment and Sex: The Dark Side --; Attachment and Sex: Sex That Advances the Plot --; Attachment Style --; Managing Attachment: Your Feels as a Sleepy Hedgehog --; Survival of the Social --; The Water of Life --; 5; Cultural Context: A Sex-Positive Life in a Sex-Negative World --; Three Messages You Are Beautiful --; Criticizing Yourself = Stress = Reduced Sexual Pleasure --; Health at Every Size --; "Dirty" --; When Somebody "Yucks" Your "Yum" --; Maximizing Yum... with Science! Part 1: Self-Compassion --; Maximizing Yum... with Science! Part 2: Cognitive Dissonance --; Maximizing Yum... with Science! Part 3: Media Nutrition You Do You --; pt. 3; Sex In Action --; 6; Arousal: Lubrication Is Not Causation --; Measuring and Defining Nonconcordance --; All the Same Parts, Organized in Different Ways: "This Is a Restaurant" --; Nonconcordance in Other Emotions --; Lubrication Error #1: Genital Response = Desire --; Lubrication Error #2: Genital Response = Pleasure --; Lubrication Error #3: Nonconcordance Is a Problem --; "Honey... I'm Nonconcordant!" --; 7; Desire: Spontaneous, Responsive, and Magnificent --; Desire = Pleasure in Context --; Good News! It's Probably Not Your Hormones --; More Good News! It's Not Monogamy, Either --; "Why Can't I Just Take a Pill?" --; It Might Be the Chasing Dynamic --; "Sex Worth Wanting" --; Sharing Your Garden --; pt. 4; Ecstasy For Everybody --; 8; Orgasm: Pleasure Is the Measure --; Nonconcordance -- Now with Orgasms! --; No Two Alike --; All the Same Parts --; Your Vagina's Okay, Either Way --; Difficulty with Orgasm --; Impatient Little Monitors --; Ecstatic Orgasm: You're a Flock! --; How Do You Medicate a Flock? --; Flying Toward Ecstasy --; 9; Love What's True: The Ultimate Sex-Positive Context --; Why Confidence Is Not Enough --; Step 1; Your Feelings Are Always True --; The Map and the Terrain: A Tool for Reality Checking --; Step 2; The Hard Part (Or, How to "Nonjudging") --; Nonjudging 1; "No Good Reason" --; Nonjudging 2; Healing Trauma --; Nonjudging 3; Pain --; Nonjudging 4; Pleasure --; Nonjudging 5; Mourning the "Shoulds" --; "To Feel Normal" --; Conclusion: You Are the Secret Ingredient --; Why I Wrote This Book --; Where to Look for More Answers
N2  - "A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski's game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life"--
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