TY  - BOOK
AU  - Villiers,Helen
AU  - McKenna,Katie
TI  - You're not the problem: the impact of narcissism and emotional abuse--and how to heal 
SN  - 9780306833120
PY  - 2024///
CY  - New York
PB  - Hachette Go, an imprint of Hachette Books
KW  - Narcissism
KW  - Manipulative behavior
KW  - Psychological abuse
KW  - Interpersonal relations
N1  - Includes bibliographical references and index; Introduction -- Is your parent a narcissist -- The five main traits of narcissism -- What made them a narcissist? -- How they f*ck you up... -- Childhood coping mechanisms: how narcissistic parenting f*cked up your relationships -- Parentification -- The roles in a narcissistic family system -- The narcissist's cycle of abuse -- Is it me? Am I the drama? -- Who am I? -- The gray rock method -- F*ck forgiveness -- Boundaries -- Killing the critical voice -- Killing the hope -- Dear reader... -- Further reading -- References -- Acknowledgments -- About the authors -- Index
N2  - "Many emotionally abusive behaviors from parent to child have become socially acceptable because of the way we repeat things our parents said and did, things passed down from generation to generation that persist today. You're Not the Problem enables us to recognize these behaviors and realize the profound impact they have had, and still have, and to see the patterns they form in our relationships with parents, partners and friends. It also shows us how to heal on a personal level but also on a societal level. The legacy and the damage caused by narcissistic and emotional abuse will carry on, perpetuated by trauma and repeating cycles, unless we learn to recognize and understand it, unless we as individuals and as a society learn how to challenge it and stop its vicious cycle of destruction--which is what this book sets out to do. This book will explain and illustrate: How to recognize emotional abuse in family relationships: its language and behaviors The immediate and long term impact of these behaviors Strategies for healing How to avoid repeating these behaviors Using client narratives and sample scripts, Villiers and McKenna offer a compassionate, sympathetic approach to looking at our familial patterns--and how we can break free from these toxic relationships and reclaim our lives."--Amazon.com
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