How to love someone without losing your mind : forget the fairytale and get real / Todd Baratz, LMHC.
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TextPublisher: New York : Rodale, [2024]Copyright date: ©2024Edition: First editionDescription: xxii, 239 pages ; 22 cmContent type: - text
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- 9780593581193
- 0593581199
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:
A sanity-saving guide that cuts through the sky-high expectations of modern love and helps you build healthier and more fulfilling relationships, from the creator of viral Instagram account YourDiagnonsense
"Witty, practical, fun, and deeply honest."--Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of Us
You're not crazy. You're human.
Modern love is a mess and life is (spoiler alert!) very hard. Whether you're in a committed relationship or on the apps, buckle up, there's a lot to unlearn.
How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind is your guide to sanity in a culture gone mad. Psychotherapist and sex therapist Todd Baratz blends sharp humor with raw insight as he challenges us to break every rule about love. It's time to move beyond the relentless pursuit of the perfect partner, to challenge the stigma against neediness, and to rethink our obsession with diagnosing common challenges as disorders.
Instead, he offers an empowering new perspective: Embrace challenges, feel deeply, make mistakes, learn, and grow. Drawing from his extensive experience as both a therapist and a patient, Baratz shares stories of navigating his personal traumas and guiding others through theirs.
This book is an invitation to understand your life as part of a larger cultural narrative. It encourages you to delve into your history, cultivate self-awareness, and take responsibility in your relationships. By doing so, you can move beyond the fairy tale and transform your approach to love.
"Whether you're on the apps or have already walked down the aisle, you are probably struggling to feel authentically connected. It's not just you; modern love is a mess. We've all heard the advice: You deserve to be loved unconditionally! People pleasing is bad! Your ex is a toxic narcissist! Love yourself first before you try to love someone else! But psychotherapist and sex therapist behind the popular YourDiagnonsense accounts Todd Baratz is here to share the hard truth: These rules are merely defense mechanisms that will sabotage your ability to form deep connections with real people. Adult relationships are not a fairytale; they're fundamentally insecure and full of risk. Unconditional love doesn't exist between adult partners-you need to do your part in order to deserve your partner's love. Your ideal relationship won't be manifested, but it can be created through skills like communication, curiosity, trust, and forgiveness. With wit, warmth, and wisdom, Baratz examines what our culture gets wrong about love, flips the rules that we've been taught, and offers a new way of relating to help you find your way to more fulfilling relationships, whether you're single or committed. Forget the fairytale fantasies that are keeping you stuck; trade them in for realism, accountability, and skills so that you can create satisfying, good enough relationships. Get real with your partner, get dirty, make mistakes, and ultimately grow together. With examples from his own life as a gay man-from childhood traumas, a ten-year relationship, and his current experience with dating app culture-along with case studies from his work as a sex and relationship therapist, Baratz adds the needed nuance to what we seek most: love"-- Provided by publisher.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 225-230) and index.