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Healing the stormy marriage : hope and help for you when your loved one has mental health or addiction issues / R. Christian Bohlen, Helen M. Bohlen.

By: Contributor(s): Material type: TextTextPublisher: [Franklin, Tenn.] : Carpenter's Son Publishing, 2021Description: xxi, 184 pages : illustrations ; 23 cmContent type:
  • text
Media type:
  • unmediated
Carrier type:
  • volume
ISBN:
  • 9781949572773
  • 1949572773
Subject(s):
Contents:
A new destination -- Introduction -- I'm so confused -- How can I start feeling like myself again? -- I'm starting to doubt myself and my faith -- Can I survive this? -- It's not fair -- My needs are not being met -- I'm totally drained and afraid -- My spouse is walking all over me! -- I can't plan anything! -- My heart breaks for my spouse -- My hopes for my life are unraveling -- Joyful after all.
Summary: Christian and Helen Bohlen's mental illnesses nearly destroyed their marriage, but they found a way to have a happy relationship after all. They detail their struggles in this invaluable resource for couples coping with mental, emotional, and/or addiction issues. When Christian married Helen, he dreamed of "doing great things with a loving companion at [his] side." The reality hardly matched his dreams. Doctors diagnosed Helen with "borderline personality disorder (BPD) and bipolar disorder." Her nonsensical outbursts, hours-long tirades, and despondent episodes hijacked the couple's life every few days. Christian, who suffers from bipolar II disorder, knew he had to find a way to protect himself and care for the woman he loved, and sought help through prayer, Bible study, proper medications, therapy, and patience. Happily married after 35 years, the Bohlens view their "gut-wrenching experiences" as God's tools for making them both more "Christlike" and hope to encourage others to seek God first in their marriage decisions. This well-written, insightful book is primarily intended for readers whose spouses suffer from mental illness.
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

Your spouse's mental health or addiction issues take a terrible toll on you, which few, if any, of your family or friends can understand.

Readers of this book often feel understood and validated for the first time, providing an instant measure of relief.

When spouses of the mentally ill or addicted are spiritually strengthened and learn practical things they can do independently, more marriages can be saved. This is a great truth and the central premise of this book! It is written to help you feel better, find hope, and receive godly guidance--not to "fix" your spouse.

Discover how you can heal the storms in your own heart through the power of Christ as well as research-based insights from world-renowned marriage and mental health experts.

You'll cherish the Bible references and the colorful, poignant stories from the authors' thirty-five-year marriage with multiple mental health diagnoses. Increase your understanding of your relationship as you identify with their challenges and triumphs.

Note: This is a deeply spiritual book, written for those who seek God's strength and guidance in their lives through Jesus Christ. Reader reviews have shown that this book is a uniquely valuable treasure for believers, but it disappoints those who are not. We state this emphatically so you understand the nature of this book before you read it.

Would you like to be strengthened in Christ, reduce your fear and resentment, clarify the lines between what you can control and what you cannot, and start feeling like yourself again? Do you know how to protect yourself and know when you should consider separation, at least temporarily?

Discover why BlueInk Reviews awarded a starred review , calling it "An invaluable resource . . . For Christians dealing with the challenges of mental illness in their spouse, this is a must-read".

This is not a book designed to diagnose your spouse's condition or help you change your spouse. Many try to change their spouses in vain--whether through force or kind and patient pressure--but these only increase the storms in their marriages and the pain in their hearts (a phenomenon known as codependency). Pamper yourself by focusing on YOU, and your needs, and your self-care, so you can be stronger and more present as you face your marital challenges.

2022 CIPA Award Winner (Christian Indie Publishing Association)

What readers are saying . . .

"Total game changer . . . I have yet to find another book with such excellent information from all disciplines that also includes prayer, faith, scripture."

"This book gives practical, relatable, faith-based advice without being overly preachy."

". . . profound page turner for me to read."

". . . a book I wish I'd had years ago . . ."

Start reading today. Experience hope and increasing relief as you heal the storms in your heart through God's power and the wisdom of those who have been there.

A new destination -- Introduction -- I'm so confused -- How can I start feeling like myself again? -- I'm starting to doubt myself and my faith -- Can I survive this? -- It's not fair -- My needs are not being met -- I'm totally drained and afraid -- My spouse is walking all over me! -- I can't plan anything! -- My heart breaks for my spouse -- My hopes for my life are unraveling -- Joyful after all.

Christian and Helen Bohlen's mental illnesses nearly destroyed their marriage, but they found a way to have a happy relationship after all. They detail their struggles in this invaluable resource for couples coping with mental, emotional, and/or addiction issues. When Christian married Helen, he dreamed of "doing great things with a loving companion at [his] side." The reality hardly matched his dreams. Doctors diagnosed Helen with "borderline personality disorder (BPD) and bipolar disorder." Her nonsensical outbursts, hours-long tirades, and despondent episodes hijacked the couple's life every few days. Christian, who suffers from bipolar II disorder, knew he had to find a way to protect himself and care for the woman he loved, and sought help through prayer, Bible study, proper medications, therapy, and patience. Happily married after 35 years, the Bohlens view their "gut-wrenching experiences" as God's tools for making them both more "Christlike" and hope to encourage others to seek God first in their marriage decisions. This well-written, insightful book is primarily intended for readers whose spouses suffer from mental illness.

Includes bibliographical references (pages 176-184).

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