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This is how your marriage ends : a hopeful approach to saving relationships / Matthew Fray.

By: Material type: TextTextPublisher: New York, NY : HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers, [2022]Edition: First editionDescription: viii, 296 pages ; 24 cmContent type:
  • text
Media type:
  • unmediated
Carrier type:
  • volume
ISBN:
  • 9780063072251
  • 0063072254
  • 9780063072268
  • 0063072262
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Contents:
Introduction: The Stories We Tell Ourselves -- This Is How Your Marriage Ends -- Good People Can Be Bad Spouses -- The Invalidation Triple-Threat:The Danger Hiding in the Shadows -- Is Your Spouse Hurting You on Purpose? -- Words Don't Always Mean What We Think They Mean -- Move the Dots Closer: Key Relationship Skills to Practice and Master -- Marriage and the Man Card -- She Feels Like Your Mom and Doesn't Want to . . . -- Sex, Lies, and Internet Porn -- What Matters vs. What Doesn't -- Conclusion: The Art of Getting to Tomorrow.
Summary: "Good People Are Bad At Relationships One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog attempting to piece together the story of how his ex-wife went from the 18-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole before she left him to have sex with someone else. It turned out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband. But as he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened: Matthew started to gain a following. And in January 2016 a post he wrote titled "She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral and was read over four million times. Written from the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, Matthew Fray captures what is at the root of so many failed relationships. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills. And in fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that leads to alienating our partners and fomenting mistrust. A candid take and groundbreaking book on relationships that shows us that good people can be terrible partners and the ways we can strive to improve, no matter what stage of life we're in"-- Provided by publisher.
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives.

Good people can be bad at relationships.

One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband.

As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote--"She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink"--went viral and was read over four million times.

Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, This Is How Your Marriage Ends exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust.

With the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and the practical insights of The 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends helps readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage-beginning, middle, or even end--of your relationship.

Introduction: The Stories We Tell Ourselves -- This Is How Your Marriage Ends -- Good People Can Be Bad Spouses -- The Invalidation Triple-Threat:The Danger Hiding in the Shadows -- Is Your Spouse Hurting You on Purpose? -- Words Don't Always Mean What We Think They Mean -- Move the Dots Closer: Key Relationship Skills to Practice and Master -- Marriage and the Man Card -- She Feels Like Your Mom and Doesn't Want to . . . -- Sex, Lies, and Internet Porn -- What Matters vs. What Doesn't -- Conclusion: The Art of Getting to Tomorrow.

"Good People Are Bad At Relationships One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog attempting to piece together the story of how his ex-wife went from the 18-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole before she left him to have sex with someone else. It turned out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband. But as he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened: Matthew started to gain a following. And in January 2016 a post he wrote titled "She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral and was read over four million times. Written from the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, Matthew Fray captures what is at the root of so many failed relationships. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills. And in fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that leads to alienating our partners and fomenting mistrust. A candid take and groundbreaking book on relationships that shows us that good people can be terrible partners and the ways we can strive to improve, no matter what stage of life we're in"-- Provided by publisher.

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