Becoming attached : first relationships and how they shape our capacity to love / Robert Karen.
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TextPublication details: New York : Oxford University Press, 1998.Description: ix, 498 pages ; 24 cmContent type: - text
- unmediated
- volume
- 0195115015
- 9780195115017
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Main Library | Parent/Teacher Resource Collection-Children's | 306.8743 K18 | Checked out | 06/27/2024 | 33111008795417 |
Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:
The struggle to understand the infant-parent bond ranks as one of the great quests of modern psychology, one that touches us deeply because it holds so many clues to how we become who we are. How are our personalities formed? How do our early struggles with our parents reappear in the way we relate to others as adults? Why do we repeat with our own children--seemingly against our will--the very behaviors we most disliked about our parents? In Becoming Attached, psychologist and noted journalist Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental and fascinating questions of emotional life. Karen begins by tracing the history of attachment theory through the controversial work of John Bowlby, a British psychoanalyst, and Mary Ainsworth, an American developmental psychologist, who together launched a revolution in child psychology. Karen tells about their personal and professional struggles, their groundbreaking discoveries, and the recent flowering of attachment theory research in universities all over the world, making it one of the century's most enduring ideas in developmental psychology. In a world of working parents and makeshift day care, the need to assess the impact of parenting styles and the bond between child and caregiver is more urgent than ever. Karen addresses such issues as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? Is day care harmful for children under one year? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?, and he demonstrates how different approaches to mothering are associated with specific infant behaviors, such as clinginess, avoidance, or secure exploration. He shows how these patterns become ingrained and how they reveal themselves at age two, in the preschool years, in middle childhood, and in adulthood. And, with thought-provoking insights, he gives us a new understanding of how negative patterns and insecure attachment can be changed and resolved throughout a person's life. The infant is in many ways a great mystery to us. Every one of us has been one; many of us have lived with or raised them. Becoming Attached is not just a voyage of discovery in child emotional development and its pertinence to adult life but a voyage of personal discovery as well, for it is impossible to read this book without reflecting on one's own life as a child, a parent, and an intimate partner in love or marriage.
Originally published: Warner Books, 1994.
Includes bibliographical references (pages 469-486) and index.
Introduction: how do we become who we are? -- Mother-love: worst-case scenarios -- Enter Bowlby: the search for a theory of relatedness -- Bowlby and Klein: fantasy vs. reality -- Psychopaths in the making: forty-four juvenile thieves -- Call to arms: the World Health report -- First battlefield: "a two-year-old goes to hospital" -- Of goslings and babies: the birth of attachment theory -- "What's the use to psychoanalyze a goose?" : turmoil, hostility, and debate -- Monkey love: warm, secure, continuous -- Ainsworth in Uganda -- The strange situation -- Second front: Ainsworth's American revolution -- The Minnesota studies: parenting style and personality development -- The mother, the father, and the outside world: attachment quality and childhood relationships -- Structures of the mind: building a model of human connection -- The black box reopened: Mary Main's Berkeley studies -- They are leaning out for love: the strategies and defenses of anxiously attached children, and the possibilities for change -- Ugly needs, ugly me: anxious attachment and shame -- A new generation of critics: the findings contested -- Born that way? Stella Chess and the difficult child -- Renaissance of biological determinism: the temperament debate -- A rage in the nursery: the infant day-care wars -- Astonishing attunements: the unseen emotional life of babies -- The residue of our parents: passing on insecure attachment -- Attachment in adulthood: the secure base vs. the desperate child within -- Repetition and change: working through insecure attachment -- Avoidant society: cultural roots of anxious attachment -- Looking back: Bowlby and Ainsworth.
"In Becoming Attached, Robert Karen offers fresh insight into some of the most fundamental issues of emotional life. He explores such questions as: What do children need to feel that the world is a positive place and that they have value? What are the risks of day care for children under one year of age, and what can parents do to manage those risks? What experiences in infancy will enable a person to develop healthy relationships as an adult?"--Page 4 of cover.