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But what will people say? : navigating mental health, identity, love, and family between cultures / Sahaj Kaur Kohli, MA, LGPC.

By: Material type: TextTextPublisher: [New York] : Penguin Life, [2024]Copyright date: ©2024Description: 420 pages ; 24 cmContent type:
  • text
Media type:
  • unmediated
Carrier type:
  • volume
ISBN:
  • 9780593491195
  • 059349119X
  • 0241584892
  • 9780241584897
Subject(s):
Contents:
Introduction -- Our stories matter, too -- Communication tips for healthier conversations -- When things don't go according to plan -- Reflecting on your achievement behavior -- But what will people say? -- Tips for talking to immigrant parents about mental health -- What's faith got to do with it? -- How to reflect your own relationship with religion and culture -- Feeling my way through -- Learning emotion regulation and exploring your shame-based behavior -- Where do my parents end and I begin? -- Learning about boundaries and your values -- Investing in community care and self-care -- How to find a therapist and how to be in therapy -- When you're the only one -- Reflections on being "the only" or "one of few" in the workplace -- Love or loyalty -- Identifying your core beliefs and tips for navigating guilt -- Getting out of my own way -- Combating self-sabotaging behaviors and mindsets -- Exploring my bicultural identity development -- Reflecting on and understanding your bicultural identity development -- Uncovering my family history -- How to cope with cultural bereavement and disenfranchised grief -- Epilogue.
Summary: "A deeply personal, paradigm-shifting book from therapist, writer, and founder of @browngirltherapy that rethinks traditional therapy and self-care models, creating much-needed space for those left out of the narrative"-- Provided by publisher.
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Adult Book Adult Book Dr. James Carlson Library NonFiction New 616.8914 K79 Available 33111011472897
Adult Book Adult Book Main Library NonFiction New 616.8914 K79 Checked out 07/30/2024 33111011356876
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Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:


"This wonderful book is a compass, a blueprint, a mirror, and a friend. Kohli gives language to what many of us feel but can't yet articulate."--Erika L. Sánchez, New York Times bestselling author of I am Not Your Perfect Mexican Daughter

"Loving, culturally informed, and holistic... [Kohli] compassionately shares her own story, and guides readers through the nuances and pain of assimilation, individuation, and mental health. How I wish I had this book back when I was trying to figure it all out for myself!" --Ramani Durvasula, PhD, author of It's Not You

A deeply personal, paradigm-shifting book rethinking traditional therapy and self-care, creating much-needed space for those left out of the narrative

Writer and therapist Sahaj Kaur Kohli grew up knowing exactly what it means to straddle multiple cultures at once. Like many children of immigrants, she has often found herself plagued by questions: Can I establish my own values and embrace where I come from? Is prioritizing my mental health really rejecting my culture? How do I set boundaries and care for myself when family and community mean everything? Even after becoming a therapist herself, she saw those same gaps in the mental health world, leading her to wonder, like so many children of immigrants: what about us?

While conversations around mental health are becoming increasingly open, our models remain largely Eurocentric and focused on individuality. Sahaj has sought to challenge these long-held models, using deep personal reflection, therapy, community building, and a whole lot of trial and error, eventually navigating her own way to understanding and acceptance. Here, she shows us how to get there, all the while reminding us that personal healing is inextricably connected to collective healing.

But What Will People Say? elegantly weaves together personal narrative, anecdotal analysis, and comprehensive research. Sahaj offers advice and tools for everything from navigating generational trauma, guilt, and boundaries, to breaking down stigmas around therapy and celebrating cultural duality. Democratizing and decolonizing the way we think about mental health and self-help, Sahaj's incredible work is nothing short of a revolution.

Includes bibliographical references (pages 401-411) and index.

Introduction -- Our stories matter, too -- Communication tips for healthier conversations -- When things don't go according to plan -- Reflecting on your achievement behavior -- But what will people say? -- Tips for talking to immigrant parents about mental health -- What's faith got to do with it? -- How to reflect your own relationship with religion and culture -- Feeling my way through -- Learning emotion regulation and exploring your shame-based behavior -- Where do my parents end and I begin? -- Learning about boundaries and your values -- Investing in community care and self-care -- How to find a therapist and how to be in therapy -- When you're the only one -- Reflections on being "the only" or "one of few" in the workplace -- Love or loyalty -- Identifying your core beliefs and tips for navigating guilt -- Getting out of my own way -- Combating self-sabotaging behaviors and mindsets -- Exploring my bicultural identity development -- Reflecting on and understanding your bicultural identity development -- Uncovering my family history -- How to cope with cultural bereavement and disenfranchised grief -- Epilogue.

"A deeply personal, paradigm-shifting book from therapist, writer, and founder of @browngirltherapy that rethinks traditional therapy and self-care models, creating much-needed space for those left out of the narrative"-- Provided by publisher.

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