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020			_a9780062322586 _q(hardcover)
020			_a0062322583 _q(hardcover)
035			_a(OCoLC)1005357589
092			_a306.736 _bP437
049			_aNFGA
100	1		_aPerel, Esther, _eauthor. _9389218
245	1	4	_aThe state of affairs : _brethinking infidelity / _cEsther Perel.
246	3	0	_aInfidelity
250			_aFirst edition.
264		1	_aNew York, NY : _bHarper, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers, _c[2017]
264		4	_c©2017
300			_axvi, 319 pages ; _c24 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
504			_aIncludes bibliographical references (pages 303-310) and index.
505	0		_aA new conversation about marriage and infidelity -- Defining infidelity: Is chatting cheating? -- Affairs are not what they used to be -- Why betrayal hurts so much: Death by a thousand cuts -- Little shop of horrors: Do some affairs hurt more than others? -- Jealousy: The spark of Eros -- Self-blame or vengeance: The dagger cuts both ways -- To tell or not to tell?: The politics of secrecy and revelation -- Even happy people cheat: Mining the meanings of affairs -- An antidote to deadness: The lure of the forbidden -- Is sex ever just sex?: The emotional economics of adultery -- The mother of all betrayals?: Affairs among other marital misdemeanors -- The lover's dilemma: Conversations with the other woman -- Monogamy and its discontents: Rethinking marriage -- After the storm: The legacy of an affair.
520			_aAn affair. It can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. Why do people cheat, even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? For the past ten years, couples' therapist Esther Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of clients who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage -- with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart. Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about modern relationships: what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
650		0	_aAdultery. _9118502
650		0	_aAdultery _xPsychological aspects. _9101587
650		0	_aMarriage. _91510
650		0	_aMarried people. _91511
650		0	_aMarital conflict. _988930
650		0	_aMan-woman relationships. _93727
650		0	_aInterpersonal relations. _933419
650		0	_aIntimacy (Psychology) _934401
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