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008			210419s2021 cou 000 0 eng
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020			_a9781611809541 _q(trade paperback)
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035			_a(OCoLC)1246673027
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100	1		_aRicho, David, _d1940- _eauthor. _9114706
245	1	0	_aHow to be an adult in relationships : _bthe five keys to mindful loving / _cDavid Richo ; foreword by Kathlyn Hendricks.
250			_a20th anniversary edition ; Second edition.
264		1	_aBoulder, Colorado : _bShambhala, _c2021.
300			_axv, 293 pages ; _c22 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
500			_a"This second edition has been updated throughout, including the addition of a new preface" -- Title page verso.
520			_a""Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships that focuses not on finding an ideal mate but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Here, he explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts-what Richo calls the five A's-form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation"-- _cProvided by publisher.
505	0		_aHow it all began -- Love and less -- Finding a partner -- High romance -- When conflicts arise -- Fears rush in -- and dangers, too -- Letting go of ego -- Our commitment and how it deepens -- When relationships end.
650		0	_aLove. _929498
650		0	_aInterpersonal relations.
650		0	_aLove _xReligious aspects _xBuddhism. _9195429
650		0	_aInterpersonal relations _xReligious aspects _xBuddhism. _9256366
700	1		_aHendricks, Kathlyn, _ewriter of foreword.
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