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001			on1257548902
003			OCoLC
005			20220510123025.0
008			210915s2022 nyu e 000 0deng
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020			_a9780063072251 _q(hardcover)
020			_a0063072254 _q(hardcover)
020			_a9780063072268 _q(paperback)
020			_a0063072262 _q(paperback)
035			_a(OCoLC)1257548902
042			_apcc
092			_a306.872 _bF847
049			_aNFGA
100	1		_aFray, Matthew, _eauthor.
245	1	0	_aThis is how your marriage ends : _ba hopeful approach to saving relationships / _cMatthew Fray.
250			_aFirst edition.
264		1	_aNew York, NY : _bHarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollinsPublishers, _c[2022]
300			_aviii, 296 pages ; _c24 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
505	0		_aIntroduction: The Stories We Tell Ourselves -- This Is How Your Marriage Ends -- Good People Can Be Bad Spouses -- The Invalidation Triple-Threat:The Danger Hiding in the Shadows -- Is Your Spouse Hurting You on Purpose? -- Words Don't Always Mean What We Think They Mean -- Move the Dots Closer: Key Relationship Skills to Practice and Master -- Marriage and the Man Card -- She Feels Like Your Mom and Doesn't Want to . . . -- Sex, Lies, and Internet Porn -- What Matters vs. What Doesn't -- Conclusion: The Art of Getting to Tomorrow.
520			_a"Good People Are Bad At Relationships One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to "journal his feelings," Matthew Fray started a blog attempting to piece together the story of how his ex-wife went from the 18-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole before she left him to have sex with someone else. It turned out that even though he was a decent guy, he was kind of a shitty husband. But as he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he'd learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened: Matthew started to gain a following. And in January 2016 a post he wrote titled "She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink" went viral and was read over four million times. Written from the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, Matthew Fray captures what is at the root of so many failed relationships. We simply haven't been taught any of the necessary skills. And in fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that leads to alienating our partners and fomenting mistrust. A candid take and groundbreaking book on relationships that shows us that good people can be terrible partners and the ways we can strive to improve, no matter what stage of life we're in"-- _cProvided by publisher.
600	1	0	_aFray, Matthew _xMarriage.
650		0	_aMarital conflict. _988930
650		0	_aMarriage _xPsychological aspects. _929836
650		0	_aMarried people _xPsychology. _988931
655		7	_aSelf-help publications. _2lcgft _9322522
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