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003			OCoLC
005			20220909105322.0
008			210825s2022 nyu b 001 0 eng
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019			_a1287033575 _a1291403790
020			_a9780593233672 _q(hardcover)
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035			_a(OCoLC)1258215948 _z(OCoLC)1287033575 _z(OCoLC)1291403790
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100	1		_aReal, Terrence, _eauthor. _961924
245	1	0	_aUS : _bgetting past you and me to build a more loving relationship / _cTerrence Real, foreword by Bruce Springsteen.
250			_aFirst edition.
264		1	_aNew York : _bGoop Press/Rodale, _c[2022]
300			_axi, 338 pages ; _c22 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
504			_aIncludes bibliographical references and index.
520			_a"You've probably heard some variation of the idea that before you can love someone else, you first have to learn to love yourself. Renowned family therapist and marriage counselor and bestselling author Terrence Real says that we've got it all wrong. In fact, the way to save your relationship is not by working on yourself, but instead by working together. Continuing to focus on yourself will just feed the problem, which is that most of us developed a set of techniques to survive our families that no longer serve us as adults. You can learn to tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. In this groundbreaking book, Real offers a new set of science-backed relational skills that have saved real marriages on the brink. Using psychology, history, and stories of actual couples who have entered his office, Real helps readers move beyond their traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness. The consciousness of us. The Hail Mary family therapist for couples on the verge of divorce, Real teaches us how to speak up for ourselves with love and build solid, loving relationships that are authentic and interdependent"-- _cProvided by publisher.
505	0		_aWhich version of you dhows up to your relationship? -- The myth of the individual -- How us gets lost and you and me takes over -- The individualist at home -- Start thinking like a team -- You cannot love from above or below -- Your fantasies have shattered, your real relationship can begin -- Fierce intimacy, soft power -- Leaving our kids a better future -- Becoming whole -- Epilogue: Broken light.
650		0	_aMarried people _xPsychology. _988931
650		0	_aCouples _xPsychology. _9120240
650		0	_aMan-woman relationships. _93727
650		0	_aInterpersonal conflict. _929835
650		0	_aInterpersonal relations.
655		7	_aSelf-help publications. _2lcgft _9322522
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