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008			210617t20222022nyu b 001 0 eng
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020			_a9781479813322 _qhardcover
020			_a147981332X _qhardcover
020			_a9781479813339 _qpaperback
020			_a1479813338 _qpaperback
035			_a(OCoLC)1257315212
042			_apcc
092			_a306.8508 _bR311
049			_aNFGA
100	1		_aReczek, Corinne E., _eauthor.
245	1	0	_aFamilies we keep : _bLGBTQ people and their enduring bonds with parents / _cRin Reczek and Emma Bosley-Smith.
264		1	_aNew York : _bNew York University Press, _c[2022]
264		4	_c©2022
300			_aviii, 211 pages ; _c24 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
504			_aIncludes bibliographical references (pages 185-199) and index.
505	0		_aGlossary -- Introduction: The parent trap -- Part I: Why LGBTQ adults stay in the family : the power of compulsory kinship -- Compulsory kinship -- The rationale of love and closeness -- The rationale of growth -- The rationale of uniqueness -- Part II: How LGBTQ adults adhere to compulsory kinship -- The kin closet -- Gender and sexuality school -- Out of the closet, under the rug -- Becoming normal -- Out of the family.
520			_a"There is no "'till death do us part" vow between parents and children. And yet, parent-child relationships are far more enduring than the marital relationships that made this phrase famous. The life-long parent-child tie is so ubiquitous and taken-for-granted that it doesn't need an oath. This unspoken pledge is our birthright; in times of good and bad, sickness and health, parents and their children are bound for life. But, not every parent-child tie is healthy and helpful. And what's remarkable is this imperative persists even when these relationships are unsatisfactory or even deeply damaging. Why do we stay in these parent-adult child relationships? And how do we stay bonded amidst rejection and pain? This book answers these questions. Drawing on interviews with 76 LGBTQ adults and 44 of their parents, the authors explain that conflictual, rejecting, and even abusive ties with parents endure because of what they call compulsory kinship: the overarching socio-cultural forces that tell us we have to stay in this bond, no matter what. That is, what we think of as the "natural" and inevitable connection between parents and adult children is actually created and sustained by sociocultural forces of compulsory kinship. With their empirical data the authors show why LGBTQ people justify their adherence to the specific compulsory kinship, using the rationales of love and closeness, parental growth, and the uniqueness of the parent-child tie. Further, they reveal how LGBTQ people stay in difficult relationships with parents through a new type of family work called "conflict work.""-- _cProvided by publisher.
650		0	_aSexual minorities' families. _9277635
650		0	_aSexual minorities _xFamily relationships.
650		0	_aDysfunctional families. _9109074
650		0	_aParent and child. _947449
650		0	_aParent and adult child. _967606
655		0	_aLGBTQ+.
700	1		_aBosley-Smith, Emma, _eauthor.
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