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100	1		_aNagoski, Emily, _eauthor. _9279076
245	1	0	_aCome as you are : _bthe surprising new science that will transform your sex life / _cEmily Nagoski, Ph.D.
250			_aSimon & Schuster trade paperback edition, revised and updated.
264		1	_aNew York, NY : _bSimon & Schuster Paperbacks, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, _c2021.
264		4	_c©2021
300			_axi, 382 pages : _billustrations ; _c23 cm
336			_atext _btxt _2rdacontent
337			_aunmediated _bn _2rdamedia
338			_avolume _bnc _2rdacarrier
520			_a"A revised and updated edition of Emily Nagoski's game-changing New York Times bestseller Come As You Are, featuring new information and research on mindfulness, desire, and pleasure that will radically transform your sex life"-- _cProvided by publisher.
504			_aIncludes bibliographical references and index.
505	0	0	_tThe True Story of Sex -- _tThe Organization of This Book -- _tA Couple of Caveats -- _tIf You Feel Broken, or Know Someone Who Does -- _gpt. 1 _tThe (Not-So-Basic) Basics -- _g1. _tAnatomy: No Two Alike -- _tThe Beginning -- _tThe Clit, the Whole Clit, and Nothing but the Clit -- _tMeet Your Clitoris -- _tLips, Both Great and Small -- _tHymen Truths -- _tA Word on Words -- _tThe Sticky Bits -- _tIntersex Parts -- _tWhy It Matters -- _tChange How You See -- _tA Better Metaphor -- _tWhat It Is, Not What It Means -- _g2. _tThe Dual Control Model: Your Sexual Personality -- _tTurn On the Ons, Turn Off the Offs -- _tYour Sexual Temperament -- _tWhat "Medium" Means -- _tDifferent for Girls... Sometimes -- _tWhat Turns You On? -- _tCan You Change Your Brain? -- _g3. _tContext: And the "One Ring" (to Rule Them All) in Your Emotional Brain -- _tSensation in Context -- _tSex, Rats, and Rock `n' Roll -- _tLiking, Wanting, and Learning -- _tYou Can't Make Them -- _t"Is Something Wrong with Me?" (Answer: Nope) -- _gpt. 2 _tSex In Context -- _g4. _tEmotional Context: Sex in a Monkey Brain -- _tThe Stress Response Cycle; Fight, Flight, and Freeze -- _tStress and Sex -- _tBroken Culture [→] Broken Stress Response Cycles -- _tComplete the Cycle! -- _tWhen Sex Becomes the Lion -- _tSex and the Survivor -- _tOrigin of Love -- _tThe Science of Falling in Love -- _tAttachment and Sex: The Dark Side -- _tAttachment and Sex: Sex That Advances the Plot -- _tAttachment Style -- _tManaging Attachment: Your Feels as a Sleepy Hedgehog -- _tSurvival of the Social -- _tThe Water of Life -- _g5. _tCultural Context: A Sex-Positive Life in a Sex-Negative World -- _tThree Messages You Are Beautiful -- _tCriticizing Yourself = Stress = Reduced Sexual Pleasure -- _tHealth at Every Size -- _t"Dirty" -- _tWhen Somebody "Yucks" Your "Yum" -- _tMaximizing Yum... with Science! Part 1: Self-Compassion -- _tMaximizing Yum... with Science! Part 2: Cognitive Dissonance -- _tMaximizing Yum... with Science! Part 3: Media Nutrition You Do You -- _gpt. 3 _tSex In Action -- _g6. _tArousal: Lubrication Is Not Causation -- _tMeasuring and Defining Nonconcordance -- _tAll the Same Parts, Organized in Different Ways: "This Is a Restaurant" -- _tNonconcordance in Other Emotions -- _tLubrication Error #1: Genital Response = Desire -- _tLubrication Error #2: Genital Response = Pleasure -- _tLubrication Error #3: Nonconcordance Is a Problem -- _t"Honey... I'm Nonconcordant!" -- _g7. _tDesire: Spontaneous, Responsive, and Magnificent -- _tDesire = Pleasure in Context -- _tGood News! It's Probably Not Your Hormones -- _tMore Good News! It's Not Monogamy, Either -- _t"Why Can't I Just Take a Pill?" -- _tIt Might Be the Chasing Dynamic -- _t"Sex Worth Wanting" -- _tSharing Your Garden -- _gpt. 4 _tEcstasy For Everybody -- _g8. _tOrgasm: Pleasure Is the Measure -- _tNonconcordance -- Now with Orgasms! -- _tNo Two Alike -- _tAll the Same Parts -- _tYour Vagina's Okay, Either Way -- _tDifficulty with Orgasm -- _tImpatient Little Monitors -- _tEcstatic Orgasm: You're a Flock! -- _tHow Do You Medicate a Flock? -- _tFlying Toward Ecstasy -- _g9. _tLove What's True: The Ultimate Sex-Positive Context -- _tWhy Confidence Is Not Enough -- _gStep 1 _tYour Feelings Are Always True -- _tThe Map and the Terrain: A Tool for Reality Checking -- _gStep 2 _tThe Hard Part (Or, How to "Nonjudging") -- _gNonjudging 1 _t"No Good Reason" -- _gNonjudging 2 _tHealing Trauma -- _gNonjudging 3 _tPain -- _gNonjudging 4 _tPleasure -- _gNonjudging 5 _tMourning the "Shoulds" -- _t"To Feel Normal" -- _tConclusion: You Are the Secret Ingredient -- _tWhy I Wrote This Book -- _tWhere to Look for More Answers.
650		0	_aSex instruction for women. _934070
650		0	_aSexual health. _9199284
650		0	_aWomen _xSexual behavior. _978517
650		0	_aWomen _xHealth and hygiene. _912075
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