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How to be an adult in relationships : the five keys to mindful loving / David Richo ; foreword by Kathlyn Hendricks.

By: Contributor(s): Material type: TextTextPublisher: Boulder, Colorado : Shambhala, 2021Edition: 20th anniversary edition ; Second editionDescription: xv, 293 pages ; 22 cmContent type:
  • text
Media type:
  • unmediated
Carrier type:
  • volume
ISBN:
  • 9781611809541
  • 1611809541
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Contents:
How it all began -- Love and less -- Finding a partner -- High romance -- When conflicts arise -- Fears rush in -- and dangers, too -- Letting go of ego -- Our commitment and how it deepens -- When relationships end.
Summary: ""Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships that focuses not on finding an ideal mate but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Here, he explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts-what Richo calls the five A's-form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation"-- Provided by publisher.
Holdings
Item type Home library Collection Shelving location Call number Materials specified Status Notes Date due Barcode Item holds
Adult Book Adult Book Dr. James Carlson Library NonFiction New 152.41 R533 Checked out 06/06/2024 33111011101918
Adult Book Adult Book Main Library NonFiction 152.41 R533 Available staining on edges of pages near back of book. 10/13/2023 33111010753925
Total holds: 0

Enhanced descriptions from Syndetics:

This beloved book has touched hundreds of thousands of lives with its profound and actionable advice. Retaining the core message of becoming more mindful in our relationships, this edition includes new and revised material that addresses how we live and love today. A new preface touches on David Richo's experience with the book over time and outlines the key updates, including attention to online dating and modern communication styles as well as new perspectives on anger and ending relationships.

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships. Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the "five A's"- attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. Brimming with practical exercises for couples and singles, How to Be an Adult in Relationships offers heartening insights into a lifelong journey of love. Topics include-


.Becoming conscious of our relationship patterns and how they relate to childhood

.Recognizing and attracting someone who can show adult love

.Understanding the phases relationships go through

.Creating and maintaining healthy boundaries

.Overcoming fears of abandonment and engulfment

.Expressing anger and other emotions in adult and loving ways

.Surviving break-ups with our self-esteem intact

.Understanding love as a spiritual journey

"This second edition has been updated throughout, including the addition of a new preface" -- Title page verso.

""Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships that focuses not on finding an ideal mate but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Here, he explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts-what Richo calls the five A's-form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation"-- Provided by publisher.

How it all began -- Love and less -- Finding a partner -- High romance -- When conflicts arise -- Fears rush in -- and dangers, too -- Letting go of ego -- Our commitment and how it deepens -- When relationships end.

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