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Emotional sobriety : from relationship trauma to resilience and balance / Tian Dayton.

By: Material type: TextTextPublication details: Deerfield Beach, FL : Health Communications, ©2007.Description: xxix, 281 pages ; 22 cmContent type:
  • text
Media type:
  • unmediated
Carrier type:
  • volume
ISBN:
  • 9780757306099
  • 0757306098
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Contents:
What is emotional sobriety? -- The emotional body : how our bodies process emotion -- The biology of love : attachment and self-regulation -- Attaching words to feeling states : developing emotional literacy -- When kids get scared -- Relationship trauma -- Behind closed doors -- Don't rock the boat: the black and white world of the traumatized or addicted family system -- Self-medicating : trying to feel better fast -- Healthy self-soothing and natural highs -- Resilience: thriving in spite of the odds -- What we don't know can hurt us -- The stabilizing effect of intimate relationships -- Passing on the pain : what am I bringing into my parenting? -- Codependency revisited -- The biology of fear : why do I think I can't survive my feelings? -- How high states of stress contribute to anxiety and depression -- Anger : what is it all about? what do I do with it? -- Grief : cleansing the wound -- The experience of pleasure : play, laughter, and creativity -- Finding forgiveness -- Growing soul -- Setting up your healing network -- Stick with the winners : habits of emotionally sober people.
Summary: Do you use substances or engage in compulsive activities to regulate your mood? Do you reach for something sweet, a couple of drinks, or a pack of cigarettes after a difficult day because you can't unwind without them? Do you race to the stores to spend away the day's frustrations or run around in circles taking more time to get less done? If these self-defeating habits sound familiar, Emotional Sobriety will shed light on why and how these coping mechanisms threaten your health and impact resilience. When we manage the stresses of the day by turning to outside 'mood managers' such as food, sex, work, shopping, gambling, drugs, and alcohol rather than healthier forms of 'self-soothing, ' it is because we lack emotional sobriety--the state of processing our thoughts efficiently to bring our emotions into balance, says bestselling author and renowned addictions psychologist Tian Dayton, Ph. D. In her latest book, Emotional Sobriety, Dr. Dayton shares compelling, honest tales of her life experiences and case studies of those she has counseled. Illustrating that emotional sobriety is a mind/body phenomenon, Dr. Dayton includes ideas on how to attain emotional literacy--the skill of translating feelings into words so that we can use our thought processes to understand and bring our emotions into balance--and how to calm the limbic system so that we can actually experience what we're feeling. The limbic system processes our emotions and governs our mood, appetite, and sleep cycles. Repeated painful experiences, in childhood or adulthood, over which we have no ability or sense of control or escape can oversensitize us to stress and deregulate our limbic system. Dr. Dayton shows you through concrete examples how to bring your emotions and thoughts into balance and learn healthy ways of 'self-soothing' to relieve symptoms of depression, anxiety, rage, and the desire to self-medicate.
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Picking up right at the point where Janet Woititz's 1990 hit book Adult Children of Alcoholics left off, clinical psychologist Tian Dayton's latest contribution contains fresh perspectives and new analysis on how to gain back emotional stability after growing up with the trauma of addiction, abuse, and dysfunction. Dr. Dayton accomplishes this by presenting and explaining the latest research in neuropsychology and the role trauma plays on chemically altering the brain. With compassion and clear explanations and her own personal journey, Dayton teaches readers how to undo the neuropsychological damage of trauma to rewire the brain and reverse the negative effects trauma has on our future relationships and behaviors to gain emotional sobriety.

In Emotional Sobriety , Dr. Dayton teaches readers:
How to understand the mind/body relationship of addiction and relationship trauma How to rewire your brain to undo the negative effects trauma has on personal, career, and romantic relationships How changing the way one lives and perceives adult relationships can change the way one thinks and feels and vice versa

Includes bibliographical references (pages 268-275) and index.

What is emotional sobriety? -- The emotional body : how our bodies process emotion -- The biology of love : attachment and self-regulation -- Attaching words to feeling states : developing emotional literacy -- When kids get scared -- Relationship trauma -- Behind closed doors -- Don't rock the boat: the black and white world of the traumatized or addicted family system -- Self-medicating : trying to feel better fast -- Healthy self-soothing and natural highs -- Resilience: thriving in spite of the odds -- What we don't know can hurt us -- The stabilizing effect of intimate relationships -- Passing on the pain : what am I bringing into my parenting? -- Codependency revisited -- The biology of fear : why do I think I can't survive my feelings? -- How high states of stress contribute to anxiety and depression -- Anger : what is it all about? what do I do with it? -- Grief : cleansing the wound -- The experience of pleasure : play, laughter, and creativity -- Finding forgiveness -- Growing soul -- Setting up your healing network -- Stick with the winners : habits of emotionally sober people.

Do you use substances or engage in compulsive activities to regulate your mood? Do you reach for something sweet, a couple of drinks, or a pack of cigarettes after a difficult day because you can't unwind without them? Do you race to the stores to spend away the day's frustrations or run around in circles taking more time to get less done? If these self-defeating habits sound familiar, Emotional Sobriety will shed light on why and how these coping mechanisms threaten your health and impact resilience. When we manage the stresses of the day by turning to outside 'mood managers' such as food, sex, work, shopping, gambling, drugs, and alcohol rather than healthier forms of 'self-soothing, ' it is because we lack emotional sobriety--the state of processing our thoughts efficiently to bring our emotions into balance, says bestselling author and renowned addictions psychologist Tian Dayton, Ph. D. In her latest book, Emotional Sobriety, Dr. Dayton shares compelling, honest tales of her life experiences and case studies of those she has counseled. Illustrating that emotional sobriety is a mind/body phenomenon, Dr. Dayton includes ideas on how to attain emotional literacy--the skill of translating feelings into words so that we can use our thought processes to understand and bring our emotions into balance--and how to calm the limbic system so that we can actually experience what we're feeling. The limbic system processes our emotions and governs our mood, appetite, and sleep cycles. Repeated painful experiences, in childhood or adulthood, over which we have no ability or sense of control or escape can oversensitize us to stress and deregulate our limbic system. Dr. Dayton shows you through concrete examples how to bring your emotions and thoughts into balance and learn healthy ways of 'self-soothing' to relieve symptoms of depression, anxiety, rage, and the desire to self-medicate.

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